Once again the new year is upon us. Resolutions abound on how 2013 will be different from last year. Many of you will have the same resolution from last year. Does this sound familiar: Lose weight, be more active, play with the kids instead of my phone, etc.
I urge you to take a deeper look at yourself. How do you see yourself? How can we really decide what our resolutions are if we don’t know who we are in reality. Everyone should make a self-portrait. What makes a self portrait beautiful is that you can look at yourself and decide the good and the bad. And only you can change it. Can you name your five best qualities? Go ahead and try. Can you name your five worst qualities. Once you know who you are, you can than work on a resolution, or better yet…let’s call it a commitment
Here is how you can start to find yourself, and discover your own self-portrait:
1. Be honest about who you really are today. It is so much easier to show your true colors, than to pretend to be someone you are not. And if you don’t like who you are than figure out a way to change.
2. Use your personality to help guide you in finding yourself. Compassionate? Generous? Funny? Reliable? Creative? The people around you will know who you are before you even say a word. They will see you if you smile a lot. They will see you if you are giving a hand to help out. They will know you are reliable when you say you will be somewhere at a certain time. And of course if you are a bad person people will see that as well. Are you cynical? Do you put people down? Are you the last to volunteer? Do you have a look on your face that you just don’t give a damn. Guess what? People see that as well.
3. To have an accurate self-portrait, name your positives. Think of ten to fifteen words to describe yourself in a positive manner.
Here are my positive attributes: Live in the moment, attentive, understanding, trustworthy, personable, flexible, easy going, organized, perceptive, optimistic, idea generator, honest, friendly, open minded, generous and reliable.
Now to write my 2013 commitments I must come up with my negative attributes.
Here is my negative attributes: Commitment issues, hold a grudge (non-forgiving), non-competitive (especially with myself), talk before thinking, not vocal about social consciousness issues, financially afraid. To sum it all up, I can be indecisive which leads to all these negatives.
What am I going to do this year to enhance myself. I am looking at my negative attributes and this year I am going to change those to a positive.
My 2013 commitments:
- Because I am indecisive, it prevents me from commitments. I have a hard time with anything that I perceive as fixed. Of course, if I committed to doing things, then I would be more decisive, more financially aware, better at my time management. This year I will finally get a tattoo and commit to where it will be on my body. I will hang up curtains in my family room. Yes, I have a hard time even committing to something as simple to curtains. The funny thing is that I know that anything that you commit to and actually do, can be reversed.
- I am not a competitor. I have never tried to compete with other people or even myself. This year I am going to run a half marathon. And for me, it is not about the time that I do it in, it is just doing it and accomplishing something that is a competition to others. The half marathon is also part of my commitment issues, because I will have to commit to training for this run. And because this half marathon is part of a relay race (half IronMan) that I am doing with co-workers, I have no choice. Because I am dependable with others but not to myself. This is going to be a challenge! This is the one I fear the most. I am convinced that I am not a runner. My feet will hurt. I do not want to run in the rain. I am sure I will keep you posted with this one!
- I will think before I talk. I will try hard to have a 10 second delay in my brain before I say something!
- And I will start to take more of a stand with my internal social consciousness, and let it become outward. Part of this is has always been that I do not want to be judged. But I have noticed people are always judging others on things we are not even aware.
So go ahead and judge me. I do not mind. I promise not to judge you!
Happy 2013! What is your commitment?