I admit. I go through my daughter’s social media feeds, and support Kelly Ripa doing the same. The sooner your kids know that social media is not private, the sooner they will learn to be more selective what they share with their “friends”. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING they put out on their social media is public for anyone to see. To our children, the real world and the virtual world are one of the same.
Kids do not really understand what is meant by a digital footprint, and it is up to their parents to explain it. Which means, it is perfectly acceptable for you to snoop…I mean look around.
And you should look around! If you are not, than you are missing out on life lessons that you could be teaching your teens. Your kids do not think before they post. They need to learn that everything they post is searchable. Want to go to college? Admissions is now scanning social media feeds of applicants? Applying for a job? Yes, we have looked at applicants Facebook page and made decisions to hire (or not hire) someone based on what we see on Facebook.
Going thorough your kids social media feeds, and most likely it is Instagram, you can learn so much about your kids friends and their interests. This is the age, 12-15 years old, where your kids just do not talk to you as much. If your kids are feeling sad, which many go through sadness and/or depression you will be able to see signs thorough their feeds. And be able to address what they are feeling and seek help if necessary.
I go through my daughter’s feed. I block people who I find inappropriate. I see which of her friends act in a way that I do not want my daughter to be around. And then I have a talk with her.
As for reading their journals, I do believe it is private as Kelly Ripa says she does not read her daughter’s diary. BUT, and I say this if your child gives you a reason that their life is in danger, read that diary. It will give you more information that you might need to understand your child and get help.
Do you agree with me? Would you read your child’s diary? Social feeds?
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