Hummus Mama

Once again the new year is upon us.  Resolutions abound on how 2013 will be different from last year.  Many of you will have the same resolution from last year.  Does this sound familiar:  Lose weight, be more active, play with the kids instead of my phone, etc.

I urge you to take a deeper look at yourself.  How do you see yourself?  How can we really decide what our resolutions are if we don’t know who we are in reality.  Everyone should make a self-portrait.  What makes a self portrait beautiful is that you can look at yourself and decide the good and the bad.  And only you can change it.  Can you name your five best qualities?  Go ahead and try. Can you name your five worst qualities.  Once you know who you are, you can than work on a resolution, or better yet…let’s call it a commitment

Here is how you can start to find yourself, and discover your own self-portrait:

1.  Be honest about who you really are today.  It is so much easier to show your true colors, than to pretend to be someone you are not.  And if you don’t like who you are than figure out a way to change.

2.  Use your personality to help guide you in finding yourself.  Compassionate?  Generous?  Funny?  Reliable?  Creative?  The people around you will know who you are before you even say a word.  They will see you if you smile a lot.  They will see you if you are giving a hand to help out.  They will know you are reliable when you say you will be somewhere at a certain time.  And of course if you are a bad person people will see that as well.  Are you cynical? Do you put people down?  Are you the last to volunteer?  Do you have a look on your face that you just don’t give a damn.  Guess what?  People see that as well.

3.  To have an accurate self-portrait, name your positives. Think of ten to fifteen words to describe yourself  in a positive manner.

Here are my positive attributes:  Live in the moment, attentive, understanding, trustworthy, personable, flexible, easy going, organized, perceptive, optimistic, idea generator, honest, friendly, open minded, generous and reliable.

Now to write my 2013 commitments I must come up with my negative attributes.

Here is my negative attributes:  Commitment issues, hold a grudge (non-forgiving), non-competitive (especially with myself), talk before thinking, not vocal about social consciousness issues, financially afraid.  To sum it all up, I can be indecisive which leads to all these negatives.

What am I going to do this year to enhance myself.  I am looking at my negative attributes and this year I am going to change those to a positive.

My 2013 commitments:

• Because I am indecisive, it prevents me from commitments.  I have a hard time with anything that I perceive as fixed.  Of course, if I committed to doing things, then I would be more decisive, more financially aware, better at my time management.  This year I will finally get a tattoo and commit to where it will be on my body.  I will hang up curtains in my family room.  Yes, I have a hard time even committing to something as simple to curtains.  The funny thing is that I know that anything that you commit to and actually do, can be reversed.
• I am not a competitor.  I have never tried to compete with other people or even myself.  This year I am going to run a half marathon.  And for me, it is not about the time that I do it in, it is just doing it and accomplishing something that is a competition to others.  The half marathon is also part of my commitment issues, because I will have to commit to training for this run.  And because this half marathon is part of a relay race (half IronMan) that I am doing with co-workers, I have no choice.  Because I am dependable with others but not to myself.  This is going to be a challenge!  This is the one I fear the most.  I am convinced that I am not a runner.  My feet will hurt.  I do not want to run in the rain.  I am sure I will keep you posted with this one!
• I will think before I talk.  I will try hard to have a 10 second delay in my brain before I say something!
• And I will start to take more of a stand with my internal social consciousness, and let it become outward.  Part of this is has always been that I do not want to be judged.  But I have noticed people are always judging others on things we are not even aware.

So go ahead and judge me.  I do not mind.  I promise not to judge you!

Happy 2013!  What is your commitment?

xoxo,

Tina

I admit it.  I am a lady of leisure.  I get pedi’s with my girlfriends, play tennis twice a week, do yoga when I can, am active at my kids school, have girls nights out, book club, have my house cleaned…am I forgetting anything?  Oh, and I work part time at my husband’s practice, write my blog, make dinner almost every night and take the kids to guitar lessons, soccer, and dance.

Yes, my life is busy.  But I also enjoy every moment. Please forgive me for not blogging.   Recently I had a brilliant idea of going and getting my real estate license.  What was I thinking?  And why didn’t anyone stop me.  I knew I was in trouble when my instructor said the courses was like being in your first year of law school.  Huh?  My brain was hurting!

The timing was really off.  I would still need to work on the new website for the practice, organizing the school book fair, and of course continue with all my other activities as a mom and wife.  And did I mention all the reading and studying I would have to do.

I was getting stressed out.  I meany really stressed.  I could feel my canker sore coming in my mouth type of stress.  And, my husband was stressed.  And we all know how husbands can get when they are stressed.  Usually it about finances and how they hold the weight of the family on their strong shoulders.

And I realized part of the stress.  I was guilty of negligence.  My work at the office was taking a back seat.  Which my work, our business, should be the number one priority since that is what pays the bills.  But it fell off my list of priorities.

Anyone knows me that I am relaxed and always in the present moment.  I do not think back to the past, nor do I think way ahead to the future.  It has its pros and cons.

And I realized something else about myself.  I am a master of starting new projects and never completing it.  You see, I am one of those people that enjoys coming up with ideas and how to do things, but the idea of finishing…well it just feels too complete.    I know it sounds strange, but I really have an issue of finishing something that I started.

Today I made the decision to be a drop out.  Yes, I dropped out of real estate school.  Well, more like postponed it but I already feel more relaxed.  Seriously friends, you should have stopped me.  I did not need to add more to my plate!

Now time to go and pack…girls trip to Miami in two days!

xoxo,
Tina